I have a friend who put her career on hold after she got married and had children. She stayed at home until the oldest was four years old, （56）she began doing part-time jobs to get out of the house. That wasn't enough, so she took a full-time job, which （57） her to travel. She was making more money than her husband, even （58） four years off the market. Her in-laws, who believe a woman's only function is housekeeping, （59） to her husband with their negative opinions. Emotionally torn (受折磨的）, he wanted to （60） his wife but was conditioned by loyalty (忠诚) to his parents' ideals. Naturally, his wife also felt （61）,eager to pursue her vision but emotionally invested in her husband and family.
I （62） her to go with her vision, because it's her life. Too many women give up their career dreams to （63） a relationship. That's traditional, but it can （64） you crazy. And some dreams, if you don't pursue them in time, will pass you （65） . When you're finally free to go （66） them, you've （67） the window of opportunity. After further discussion, her husband went along, （68） he valued the relationship as much as she did.
Conversely (相反地) , a former student, whose husband felt （69） by her earning more money than he did, ended her （70） consulting practice and gave up a six-figure income. To （71） conflict in her relationship, she abandoned her passion. Maybe she should have abandoned her husband's （72） thinking and surrounded herself instead with people who believed in her.
A relationship must be mutually （73）, and any genuine relationship will adjust to change. When you recognize that a relationship is putting out your fire, ask yourself （74） you should gracefully go away and realize your dreams. Communicate how much your vision means to you, do it in a relationship-friendly （75） , and the people in your life will surprise you.